Planning for your perfect wedding can be strenuous and very time consuming. This is why most couples opt to get a wedding planner. I once saw someone on social media ask why they need a wedding planner to help them plan THEIR own wedding, Key word here being THEIR wedding. I will not dwell on why you should get a wedding planner and on what to look for in one as you make your decision but for tips on that you can check out this past article, Wedding Planners: Their roles and what to look for in one.

Today, what I will be dwelling on is tips for those couples who are looking to plan their own wedding. At times due to financial constraints or because they are not too busy, a couple may decide to plan all the details of their wedding. How does one go about it? Here are some tips from a former bride.

  • Hire a Day-of Coordinator: If you are going down this road of planning your own wedding, then it means you have decided not to have a Wedding Planner. A Day-of Coordinator will be very important for coordinating everyone around on that special day. As a bride or groom you will not have the time to be up and down to be coordinating everyone and thus the importance of having someone do it for you and you only get to pay them for that one day.
  • Write down the Non-Negotiable things for your wedding: This are the kind of things that you will want in your wedding at all costs and you will not negotiate it at all costs. You can term them as your main priorities.
  • Food: For food the rule is to ensure that the food is good and that the food is enough. PERIOD
  • Pay people to do stuff that you don’t need to worry about: If you can pay someone to execute those little things that need to be done, then do it. Do not stress yourself trying to pull off some D-I-Y that will give you sleepless nights. If you have to, delegate tasks and avoid the unnecessary hassle.Plan1
  • Learn to say NO: If there are things that you do not want at your wedding, don’t let others force them down your throat. Say No and get to enjoy your day as you exactly want it. It is your day and it will only happen once so don’t let it get diverted to the wishes of others.
  • Try to find a balance between what is Trendy right not and what will be Classic forever: This is not easy but it is very important. Trends will come and go and what might look great now will not be the same a couple of years down the road. This is a day that you want to remember for the rest of your lives and if you can get that classic look for your wedding then it will immortalize that special day for the rest of your life.
  • Clean Up crew: Think beyond the wedding day to what will happen to the mess after the event. Some venues have crews who will do this as part of the venue package or for an extra fee. Ensure that you know what will happen afterwards so that you or your family are not stuck cleaning up after a long hectic day.
  • Lastly, Have fun: Be present in the moment. Eat with the guests. Dance to the music. Live in the moment and don’t let this special day zoom past you. ENJOY THE DAY!!

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When I was in campus and a certain club wanted to have an event, they would advertise their meeting on the notice board. The greatest catch-phrase that would not miss from that advertisement would be “Refreshments Available”. This would guarantee a massive event turn up even if the crowds motives were only stomach based!

In our African culture, we can all agree that food plays a major role in our unification. There is no serious event that will be held in the absence of food. Sitting down and eating together creates a sort of bond and the event ends up being a success. This is the truth even in Weddings. That is why getting the right caterer for your wedding is also very key to the success of your wedding. So how do you go about selecting the right caterer for your function?Food5

  1. First, Figure out your budget: Know what you are willing to spend. This informs you on the companies you can afford to hire and also helps caterers to tweak their proposals to your needs. This will also help you to operate from within your means.
  2. Pick suggestions from your venue: Some venues have a list of preferred caterers, which is a good place to start off from. This does NOT limit you to having to work with them.
  3. Scout around for multiple proposals: This will help you compare and contrast the cost, service and menu options. Be very specific in your demands. Let the caterer know the number of guests you are expecting and what theme your wedding will be taking.
  4. Enquire about Linens and dinnerware: Some caterers offer the food without the dinnerware and thus it is important to know about it before hand.
  5. Pay close attention to your interactions with them: How the caterers will treat you as a client is very important. They might offer great food but if they keep getting your event details wrong, or are slow in getting back to you then you can cross them off your list of vendors. Attention to detail is very key to getting a successful wedding.
  6. Arrange for tasting: If you have never had the caterer’s food before then try and plan for a tasting. If you know the caterers beforehand then you can skip the food tasting.
  7. Try and get reviews on the caterer: Before you sign the dotted line, talk to friends, family and previous clients who have used their services before. Get to know details of their services before you make that deposit.
  8. Sign the contract: After creating a final proposal, now you can sign the contract. This can be followed with a tasting of your full wedding menu as you expect it on the wedding day.

Finally, enjoy your food!

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The weather of late has been very unpredictable. At least in Kenya, it has been. One moment it is all blue and the sun is shining down on you strongly and then before you know it, the clouds rush in and all of a sudden you are running to look for shelter from the heavy downpour.

The good thing about the weather is that it is no respecter of persons or status and thus if it decides to rain or shine it does so to all around.

This also applies to the couples looking forward to having a grand wedding day in this wishy washy weather. It doesn’t necessarily mean that because the weather is undecided that you cannot come prepared to have a great day.

Usually when a couple plans for their wedding, they have an emergency plan for their guests just in case the weather decides to take an unexpected turn. But one thing they never prepare is their bridal party.

Yes! These are the people expected to be part of your great day yet, they are not adequately dressed for the weather. The ladies and the brides are usually the most affected since they work with the “Freeze & Shine Mentality”. By this I mean that they tend to think that for them to look awesome on that day, they cannot wear anything on top of the fancy wedding dresses.

The truth is that you do not need to dress down to look fab on your wedding day. What if I told you it is possible to dress up for your wedding day and still come out of that day looking like royalty? Still don’t believe me? Check out the following pictures for photographic evidence.

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Experience has always been the best teacher. That is why this last weekend I made a conscious decision to be a part of the Grand Wedding Expo which was held at the Thika Road Mall in the Convention Centre.

The Wedding industry, just like any other industry, is always on the move. The way weddings were conducted 20 years ago is not the same way they are done today. Everything is changing and as a wedding planner one of the ways to keep up with the ever changing trends is to visit such exhibitions, interact with different vendors and see different, new, out of the norm ways of planning a wedding.


It is also a great way of connecting and networking with vendors who I plan on working with in the near future.

Wedding expos are not only beneficial for Wedding planners but also for couples planning their weddings. In this specific expo, there was a couple who had a talk with the audience on Vows that Last. They narrated their 7 years married life to the audience and there were some lessons to be learnt from what they had already been through.

One of the other speakers was a gentleman from Centonomy 101. We all know that one of the things that break up most couples nowadays is finances. Thus it is very important for every couple to learn how to handle their finances right from the start and this will not only help reduce financial stress in the marriage but it will also help them in their wealth creation journey.


All in all it was a great learning experience for me and an eye opener to what I am looking forward to offering my clients now and in the days to come.


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We are all facing economic times and this does not exclude the couples who are looking forward to saying “I DO”.  Wedding are costly affairs but having one doesn’t require the couple to break a bank. On the flipside, having a well budgeted wedding does not mean that the wedding will be a flop. It just means that the couple wants to share their special day with their family and friends, while still ensuring that they can have a decent meal after their wedding day.

So, how do you save money on your wedding day? Check out the following tips.


  1. Cut the guest list. This will slash your catering costs and save on invitations.
  2. Think off-peak season and save thousands.
  3. Hold your ceremony and reception in one spot.
  4. Skip the Saturday wedding, veer from the tradition by picking a less busy day.
  5. Have bigger tables so you need fewer centerpieces and tablecloths.



  1. Use more greenery than flowers.
  2. Swap out costly flowers for something less costly.
  3. Stick to just one or two kinds of flowers.
  4. Buy flowers that are in season.
  5. Include non floral pieces, like seashells or fruit.


Food & Drink

  1. Skip the main course—you can opt for cocktails and snacks for the guests.
  2. Offer beer, wine and a signature cocktail instead of a full bar.
  3. Skip the champagne toast.


  1. Order a small one- or two-tier cake and then supplement it with a larger sheet cake.
  2. Keep the add-ons simple.
  3. Use fresh flowers, not sugar ones.
  4. Skip exotic fillings.


Photo, Video & Music

  1. Have a photographer you love but can’t afford the prices? Ask them if they have an associate shooter who will do your wedding for less.
  2. Opt for a smaller band.
  3. Hire a band or DJ who can do both the ceremony and the reception.


Lastly, unless you have an emergency that is making you want to get married like yesterday, then opt for a long engagement. Long engagements are beneficial in that they give you time to check the offers in the market and also to enables you to save without compromising on quality.


Remember, you do not have to break the bank to have a superb wedding; you just have to be willing to think through it carefully and ask for help where necessary.

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As a wedding guest in the 21st century you are going to want to put your best foot forward. By this I mean staying up to date on the changes in the rule book and also get to know what has entirely been crossed out. Yes, there is a rule book! Here is a glance into the changes that have taken place in the rule book.


The old rule: You shall not steal the bride’s thunder by wearing white to a wedding —and black’s out of the question, too.

Black used to be taboo.

But things have changed now and you can don a light, breezy black dress, especially if you’re on your way to a summer wedding. Avoid shroud-looking garments since you aren’t attending a funeral. You can liven up the all-black look with some killer shoes and playful jewelry.

What about white?

Traditionally, you would not wear white. White and ivory should be left for the bride — and that still holds true today. You can wear a dress with some white in it, or have white somewhere within your outfit, but you shouldn’t plan to show up wearing an all-white ensemble.”


The old rule: You shall not take any photos without permission.

Nowadays everyone’s phone takes photos which are then promptly uploaded to social media platforms. Before you do these make sure that you’re not trumping the bride and groom.

Some will encourage you to photograph the event, and even give you a hashtag to use on all the wedding photos. But if you aren’t sure what they want, be cautious. Which means, DON’T POST ANYTHING.

Secondly, if there’s a professional photographer, don’t get in their way. The bride and groom are likely looking forward to having photos taken by the professional they paid to do the job. They’ll appreciate it if you allow the photographer his or her space.

Also remember, not to post pictures of children without permission.


The old rule: The bride and groom are expected to create a registry. And you should not stray from the items on the list.

A registry is still pretty fabulous because it’s specific and provides details on exactly what the bride and groom are going to need. They still serve a purpose. So, if you’re provided with a link to a registry, you should still go by it.

If you plan to go wild and get the happy couple something they didn’t ask for, then get a gift receipt.

In the end, this rule isn’t going anywhere. In fact, there’s even more of a reason to abide by the registry system. Nowadays, people are getting married a little older. They may already be living together, and they might have a lot of household stuff. You can’t be sure your gift will actually be helpful to them unless you check that list.”


The old rule: You shall respectfully participate in all wedding traditions, including the throwing of the bridal bouquet.

Some people love going out and catching the bouquet. Other girls may feel like, ‘That’s so outdated. I don’t want to put myself in that position where I’m vying for the flowers.’

Whatever you believe, this day is not about you, and if the bride has chosen to include a tradition such as this one in her big day, that’s her choice.

Rather than making a scene, simply excuse yourself quietly.


The old rule: You shall attend every second of the wedding ceremony, which will most likely be in a religious setting. Then, you can attend the party.

Nowadays most people don’t want to sit through the religious ceremony; they just want to turn up for the fun part. Well, if the couple has invited you to the wedding, they’re expecting you to join them for the full experience.”

A ceremony and reception go hand in hand, meaning this rule is here to stay.

Trust me, the bride and groom will remember who shows up and who doesn’t. And they’ll remember who leaves early, too.

It’s true that the tradition of the ceremony has changed enormously over the years. But whatever that ceremony consists of, you’re sharing an important moment with the couple. Be there for them.

The old rule: You shall consider bringing a plus one if and only if the invitation makes it clear that a person other than you is being invited.

Invitations may look different, but the tradition is the same.

If your boyfriend or girlfriend’s name is not on the invitation, or if it doesn’t include a crystal-clear ‘plus one’ addition, they’re not invited.

The exception is if you’re engaged or married. In that case, the invite blunder was probably just an oversight on the part of the bride or planner.

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When we ladies attend a friend’s ruracio and know for sure that a wedding is in the offing, the next thing we look forward to is the invitation to become one of the bridesmaids. Once this has been done, we think all it entails is doing some dress fitting, planning a bachelorette party for the bride and then looking stunning beside her in the wedding pics. But how many of the ladies out there actually know that there are some duties for the role that they so covet? I know most of y’all wannabe-bridesmaids don’t know this so let me enlighten you today! Agreeing to be a bridesmaid is like signing up for a part-time, unpaid job.


Future Bridesmaids here is a cheat-sheet of your to-do list:

  • Offer your help on dealing with the pre-wedding tasks. Be specific when you volunteer. This helps the bride know that you are available to do a certain task and thus know they can count on your support.


  • Scout and shop for the bridesmaid dresses, shoes, jewelry and any other required wedding accessories.
  • Help in the planning, co-hosting and paying for the bridal shower in partnership with the other bridesmaids.


  • The Maid of honor should handle the task of keeping a clear record of all the gifts received at various parties. This will help the couple as they write out their Thank-you notes.
  • Attend the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner.


  • Help in dealing with any last-minute errands that need to be covered.
  • Collaborate with the other bridesmaids to get the bride a gift.


  • No matter how stressful the whole ordeal may prove to be, hang in there. It might not be your day and you might think the color of the dress is ugly, but don’t complain. Be gracious and tactful. Treat the bride with the respect that you would like accorded to you if you were the bride.


  • Lastly, provide plenty of emotional support not only during the planning phase but also during the wedding day! Remember, you were friends even before the wedding and the wedding day should not be what ends your friendship.

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