WEDDING ETIQUETTE FOR GUESTS

As a wedding guest in the 21st century you are going to want to put your best foot forward. By this I mean staying up to date on the changes in the rule book and also get to know what has entirely been crossed out. Yes, there is a rule book! Here is a glance into the changes that have taken place in the rule book.

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The old rule: You shall not steal the bride’s thunder by wearing white to a wedding —and black’s out of the question, too.

Black used to be taboo.

But things have changed now and you can don a light, breezy black dress, especially if you’re on your way to a summer wedding. Avoid shroud-looking garments since you aren’t attending a funeral. You can liven up the all-black look with some killer shoes and playful jewelry.

What about white?

Traditionally, you would not wear white. White and ivory should be left for the bride — and that still holds true today. You can wear a dress with some white in it, or have white somewhere within your outfit, but you shouldn’t plan to show up wearing an all-white ensemble.”

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The old rule: You shall not take any photos without permission.

Nowadays everyone’s phone takes photos which are then promptly uploaded to social media platforms. Before you do these make sure that you’re not trumping the bride and groom.

Some will encourage you to photograph the event, and even give you a hashtag to use on all the wedding photos. But if you aren’t sure what they want, be cautious. Which means, DON’T POST ANYTHING.

Secondly, if there’s a professional photographer, don’t get in their way. The bride and groom are likely looking forward to having photos taken by the professional they paid to do the job. They’ll appreciate it if you allow the photographer his or her space.

Also remember, not to post pictures of children without permission.

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The old rule: The bride and groom are expected to create a registry. And you should not stray from the items on the list.

A registry is still pretty fabulous because it’s specific and provides details on exactly what the bride and groom are going to need. They still serve a purpose. So, if you’re provided with a link to a registry, you should still go by it.

If you plan to go wild and get the happy couple something they didn’t ask for, then get a gift receipt.

In the end, this rule isn’t going anywhere. In fact, there’s even more of a reason to abide by the registry system. Nowadays, people are getting married a little older. They may already be living together, and they might have a lot of household stuff. You can’t be sure your gift will actually be helpful to them unless you check that list.”

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The old rule: You shall respectfully participate in all wedding traditions, including the throwing of the bridal bouquet.

Some people love going out and catching the bouquet. Other girls may feel like, ‘That’s so outdated. I don’t want to put myself in that position where I’m vying for the flowers.’

Whatever you believe, this day is not about you, and if the bride has chosen to include a tradition such as this one in her big day, that’s her choice.

Rather than making a scene, simply excuse yourself quietly.

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The old rule: You shall attend every second of the wedding ceremony, which will most likely be in a religious setting. Then, you can attend the party.

Nowadays most people don’t want to sit through the religious ceremony; they just want to turn up for the fun part. Well, if the couple has invited you to the wedding, they’re expecting you to join them for the full experience.”

A ceremony and reception go hand in hand, meaning this rule is here to stay.

Trust me, the bride and groom will remember who shows up and who doesn’t. And they’ll remember who leaves early, too.

It’s true that the tradition of the ceremony has changed enormously over the years. But whatever that ceremony consists of, you’re sharing an important moment with the couple. Be there for them.

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The old rule: You shall consider bringing a plus one if and only if the invitation makes it clear that a person other than you is being invited.

Invitations may look different, but the tradition is the same.

If your boyfriend or girlfriend’s name is not on the invitation, or if it doesn’t include a crystal-clear ‘plus one’ addition, they’re not invited.

The exception is if you’re engaged or married. In that case, the invite blunder was probably just an oversight on the part of the bride or planner.

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BRIDESMAID DUTIES

When we ladies attend a friend’s ruracio and know for sure that a wedding is in the offing, the next thing we look forward to is the invitation to become one of the bridesmaids. Once this has been done, we think all it entails is doing some dress fitting, planning a bachelorette party for the bride and then looking stunning beside her in the wedding pics. But how many of the ladies out there actually know that there are some duties for the role that they so covet? I know most of y’all wannabe-bridesmaids don’t know this so let me enlighten you today! Agreeing to be a bridesmaid is like signing up for a part-time, unpaid job.

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Future Bridesmaids here is a cheat-sheet of your to-do list:

  • Offer your help on dealing with the pre-wedding tasks. Be specific when you volunteer. This helps the bride know that you are available to do a certain task and thus know they can count on your support.

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  • Scout and shop for the bridesmaid dresses, shoes, jewelry and any other required wedding accessories.
  • Help in the planning, co-hosting and paying for the bridal shower in partnership with the other bridesmaids.

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  • The Maid of honor should handle the task of keeping a clear record of all the gifts received at various parties. This will help the couple as they write out their Thank-you notes.
  • Attend the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner.

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  • Help in dealing with any last-minute errands that need to be covered.
  • Collaborate with the other bridesmaids to get the bride a gift.

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  • No matter how stressful the whole ordeal may prove to be, hang in there. It might not be your day and you might think the color of the dress is ugly, but don’t complain. Be gracious and tactful. Treat the bride with the respect that you would like accorded to you if you were the bride.

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  • Lastly, provide plenty of emotional support not only during the planning phase but also during the wedding day! Remember, you were friends even before the wedding and the wedding day should not be what ends your friendship.

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WEATHER-PROOF YOUR WEDDING DAY!!

The rainy season is here with us. (Okay, partly). It might be every bride’s nightmare but this does not mean that weddings cannot go on. What it means is that we have to find ways of “Water-proofing” our weddings. This means that as a couple, you will have to find a way to ensure that your guests enjoy your wedding despite the wet weather. Here are some tips to ensure that your big day is not ruined by the weather.

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  • Plan for Shelter– When planning out how your day will work out, always take the possibility of rain into account. Ensure that if you are planning on having a Garden wedding that you also have a plan B that can accommodate all your guests just in case the skies open up.
  • Choose the right flooring– If you plan on having your wedding in a gazebo, then invest in wooden flooring to make it easier for your guests to walk in with any type of shoes.

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  • Remember the Umbrellas– Ensure you have enough umbrellas for you and your wedding party. If you can get spare umbrellas for the guests who need one then get them.
  • Plan for the Photos– Make a wet weather plan for the photo session. Ask your photographer to get creative and think about different options before the day itself. All in all, seek to see the silver lining and enjoy the less glaring light that the rain provides.

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  • Weatherproof your wedding dress– Try and minimize the damage if you are donning a long gown by opting for a dress with an underskirt that can be hooked up to protect the top skirt.
  • Enjoy the Weather- Think about what really matters. This is about the two of you sharing your big day with family and friends and not even a storm should ruin that!!

So smile through it all and ask the DJ to play Rihanna’s “Umbrella” and dance the day away!!

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BABY BUMP + WEDDING= DRESSING A PREGNANT BRIDE!

Being pregnant is a beautiful thing. Now, being pregnant while planning a wedding and looking forward to walking down the aisle is also a beautiful thing but it calls for more preparation as opposed to when one is not pregnant. This is because it is not just about planning the event, but one also has to consider comfortability for the bride at all turns. This does not mean that pregnant brides should get discouraged; on the contrary, they should embrace their special day and be glad that they have that special glow that comes with one being expectant.

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So what does one have to consider when getting their gown while expecting?

  • Ensure you call up your bridal shop of choice, before you go over for gown shopping. This will ensure you create a rapport with them and help make your search much easier. It will also save on time and energy spent walking in and out of shops that might not have what you are looking for.

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  • Choose the right silhouette to meet your needs. If you are looking to conceal the bump, Empire waist dresses or Ball gowns will help you do exactly that. If you are all for flaunting your belly, ensure you get a gown that has some elasticity that will allow the dress to stretch and hug the bump while still giving you comfort as you move around.

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  • Always Size up your dress. Remember that your bump is constantly growing and if you fit your gown last month, it might end up being a snug fit, in the next month. The general rule of thumb is to add an inch to each measurement for each remaining month of pregnancy from now until your wedding date.

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  • Avoid over-accessorizing. Do not go overboard with an intricate gown or statement jewelry. Think of your bump as an oversized accessory so avoid competing with it.
  • Lastly, get the right shoes. Remember that your belly is not the only thing growing but your feet are too. Take that into consideration when shoe shopping. Go for a stylish but comfortable shoe with lots of support and minimal heel height.

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Do not shy away from being a stunning bride just because you happen to be a pregnant bride. Embrace the double joy and enjoy the beautiful day. The key thing through it all is comfort!

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DRIP CAKES!

Do you believe in Love at First Sight? Personally I never did until I saw a Drip cake!

 

Drip cakes are all the rage right now and this mania is spilling over into the Wedding Industry.

Forget about that Traditional Fruit Cake that always makes its way to every wedding. Live a little more and try out a Drip cake for your wedding and if you are not a bride-to-be then you can also get one for any other occasion.

Drip Cakes, also known as Drippers, are a traditional bread from Great Britain. The main ingredients are dripping, flour, brown sugar, spices, currants and raisins. The ingredients are mixed thoroughly and baked in an oven.

If it was also love at first sight for you too, then maybe I can hint on a person who will do a superb job for your cake!

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SAYING THANK YOU IN STYLE!!

Weddings are always a costly affair and after all is said and done, the couple definitely looks forward to a lovely day and then to opening up the gifts from their guests. Usually at the end of every wedding ceremony, a vote of thanks will be given to appreciate the guests for their support, but is there more that can be done to ensure that the vote of thanks is remembered for a long time to come? Of course, there is! It comes in the form of WEDDING FAVORS!

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Wedding favors are a way of saying thank you to your guests. It is a small token of your appreciation for their sharing in your memorable day. Wedding favors will be appreciated by everyone and if you get yours right, it will also be treasured for years to come.

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Here are some tips to picking wedding favors that will not get left behind or tossed the morning after.

  • Think practically- Take a moment to reflect, if the gift you are to get others is something you would want. Ask yourself, “Can the item be used after the wedding?” Consider favors that are practical or edible. This will avoid getting them trashed even before the sun sets.

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  • Avoid the Monogram– Kindly resist the compulsion to put your initials on the favors. Personalizing it can turn the gift into trash. To go round this, work with packaging. Add your personal touch through the use of bags, ribbons or labels.
  • Always pick something meaningful- Ask yourself, “Does the item fit our Wedding theme?” Let your favors express your personalities as a couple. E.g. are you both wine lovers? Mini wine bottles with personalized labels will be perfect. Or you can even borrow some inspiration from the season.

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  • Look for something affordable- Ensure that your favors are well within your budget.
  • DIY (Do-It-Yourself) gifts- It might seem like a cost- saver but it is very time consuming. Otherwise, homemade gifts are a great way to show your appreciation to your guests.

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  • Try out your favors before you buy– This will mostly apply if the favors are edible or something that the guests will use e.g. soap. Get a sample first before you buy in bulk.
  • Always Order Extra- Always have backups ready. This will help in case some get lost or broken in transit. Other guests also might take extras and you will want to ensure that everyone gets something to go home with.
  • Wrap up the favor– Personalized packaging and a great display will go a long way. Let your favor packaging make a great impact just like the favor inside. When packaging edible favors, remember to get special packaging that will keep any grease from leaking and ruining the packaging.

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Have fun while picking your Wedding favors and let it be a fun way of showing your appreciation to your guests.

 

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DANCING TO YOUR PERFECT WEDDING

According to Martha Stewart, ‘The music entertainment you select for your wedding or party is responsible for 80% of the events success and the memories you will have for the rest of your life’.

I don’t know if music can change a weddings’ success but I am 100% sure that it can help enhance the memories that you will be making on your special day.

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From the minute the wedding procession walks down the aisle, to the music playing in the background as the couple signs their marriage certificate, to when the couple take to the floor to have their first dance as newlyweds; Music plays a significant role that cannot be ignored.

Figuring out the right songs for your wedding can be quite a challenge. Here are some simple tips on how to get those songs.

  • Budget- When coming up with the budget for your wedding, do not forget to budget for music/entertainment. If getting a band, enquire if they offer all sorts of music as an all-in-one package. This might help cut down on costs.
  • Pick a style- With the many different genres on offer these days; you don’t have to limit yourself to one genre. As you pick your style, be careful to let it portray your personality as a couple.

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  • Create a schedule- For the smooth running of everything, it is important to have a clearly detailed schedule. Indicate your schedule as you look for your band so that they know what is expected of them.
  • Lastly, Double check your bands requirements– Different bands will ask for different things but the basics include a power supply, adequate performance space, refreshments, parking space and a changing room.

Keep in mind that your wedding music will set the tone for your whole day, so ensure you liaise with the band or DJ to have music that will create a festive vibe.

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That said, DO NOT attempt to micromanage your band or DJ. Let them do their job which is to keep the party going, so that you can focus on busting some moves on the dance floor!

My favorite wedding songs include (but are not limited to):

  • I Choose you- Ryann Darling
  • When God Made You- Natalie Grant
  • God gave Me You- Bryan White
  • Take My Hand– Emily Hackett & Will
  • The Marriage Prayer– John Waller

What are your all-time favorite wedding songs? Feel free to share them with us.

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